What To Avoid While Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Posted on December 13, 2010
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Quite often, getting your ex boyfriend back is easier than it appears right after the break up. The reason many of us mess it up is because we react on raw emotion and what was just a natural, transient time out becomes permanent.

Don’t become a drama queen!

It doesn’t need a sociologist to see that generally, women are pretty comfortable with displays of emotion, whereas most guys just don’t know how to control them. When confronted with crying, the only thing most of guys want to do is run the other direction. Hardly the reaction you want when you’re working on getting your ex boyfriend back.

Don’t make it obvious!

While you were single, you were probably a pretty attractive confident girl who wasn’t overly interested in what any particular guy thought, right? That’s exactly what your ex fell for.

Yet after a break up, a lot of women buy extra-sexy clothes, hit the clubs every night, and in short become absolutely different people. By doing this, instead of making it look like you’re over the guy, it makes it appear like you’re so eager to get him back
that you’re willing to change your whole personality. Advertising you are available is just as bad as sitting home crying.

Don’t bug his friends!

If your ex isn’t answering your phone calls or emails, the next obvious way to contact him is through his friends. Generally, this isn’t a bad approach because his close friends do have good power to sway his opinion about you. What is a bad idea is calling frequently every friend you know and begging them to request your ex to contact you.

Rather, pick one or two of his friends and ask if they’d be trying to let your guy know that you’re sorry about how things turned out, but that you still care about him and miss him. Leave it at that. If he likes to contact you, he will.

Don’t play detective!

No matter how much you like to know how he’s getting along without you, control your desire to spy on him. While you can’t go to wrong requesting a friend of his to carry a message from you, don’t then go on to ask if your ex is still single, what he does on the weekend, or even how he seems to be feeling. It’s not only impolite, it’s also really irritating. Being annoying is not one of the best ways of getting your ex boyfriend back.

Don’t ignore the “culture gap”!

Certainly, men and women aren’t really from different worlds, but we do often look at relationships and feelings differently from the style guys do. If you want to get through to your guy, honor those differences and put some effort into understanding how men think about romantic things. This may indicate having a true heart-to-heart with a close boy friend, but it can dramatically increase your chances of getting your ex back.

If you need some good advice on getting your ex boyfriend back, forget the drama mama ideas in the women’s magazines and look for a proven strategy developed by somebody who knows what they’re talking about.

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