Try Something New to Heal Your Broken Heart

Posted on July 23, 2010
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To start any new habit only takes 21 days, that also goes for breaking any bad ones we may have. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong – STOP!!! Although it’s quite natural to feel hurt for a long time after a losing someone we love, we have to get up and begin to live again. It’s time to start some new habits, so get out of those ugly old sweatpants and put away the junk food, we are going to heal your broken heart by trying something new!

The very first thing we have to do is put an end to all the terrible habits we are doing now. Are you checking Facebook or Twitter every 5 minutes to see what’s your ex is doing? Do you still bring them up purposely bring them up in conversations with the friends you still share? We want our ex to have the same broken heart as we do and we want to know if they miss us too. Well, if you want to heal you have to make a conscious effort to break these habits. So, pinch yourself whenever you feel the need to bring up your ex or go online to check up on them. Not lightly but hard! You have to begin make yourself aware of these bad habits so you can stop them.

Now that our arms are all red from pinching ourselves we need to start some new habits to help distract us from the ones we are trying to break. In order to feel good about ourselves again so our first new habit will be to complement ourselves. This may feel strange at first but you need to write down 10 really good things about yourself. Here are some examples to help get you going:

My 10 best attributes:

  1. My … is/are my best feature.
  2. I’ve very good at…
  3. I’m also very…
  4. I’m very…
  5. I really love my…
  6. I have great…
  7. One of my best skills is/are…
  8. I really look good in…
  9. My … really kicks butt!
  10. I’m really good at…

Now every morning you are going to get up and look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things and don’t squint your face up as you do it, act like you mean it! You will begin to believe it the more you say and you will start to once again like who you are.

Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Is is learning to cook, rock climb, creative writing or running, what it the new thing you want to join? Choose something fun, you will not only learn a new skill but you will be forced to meet new people. These people will get to know the “real you”, not the “you” that you were with your ex.

As you find yourself involved in more things as single “you” you’ll begin to feel more comfortable with yourself and stop thinking about what your ex is doing. Try these 2 things for 3 weeks and see how you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? Mending our broken heart takes time and we are just starting to retrain how we feel about ourselves.

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