The Steps for Moving on – Mend Your Broken Heart

Posted on September 1, 2010
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Are you having trouble getting over a guy and need help to mend your broken heart? Letting go of someone who you had a close relationship with is very hard, whether you broke up with him or he dumped you. It takes time and patience to fill the emptiness that you are experiencing in your heart and life. Nonetheless, people do heal from these relationships and move on. To get over the guy you still like, here are the five steps.

The first step is letting out the hurt. Know that it is okay to cry when you are trying to get over the guy. To helps with the pain, some people write their experiences in a journal.

Writing a long letter about the relationship to the ex boyfriend, is very effective healing method that I have seen some people do. The letter must include the good times and the bad times. Your relationship and how he hurt you needs to be told. Allow yourself to release it all. Upon completion of the letter, burn it. That’s right. Don’t even contemplate sending it to your ex. Alternatively, let the flames burn up the letter. Closure to the relationship is what this offers.

The decision that the relationship is over is a decision you now must make. You will never get over this guy and move on, if you continue to hold on to the thought that he will change and come back to you.

The end of the relationship needs to be finalized by something symbolic. A good example of this is to exchange all of the personal property that you have of the others. Do not keep that oh so comfort, over sized t-shirt of his that you sleep in. And, if there are things too minor to exchange (like a toothbrush), throw them away. Clear your place of his entire things. This is an excellent way of clearing your life of him and moving on.

Through this time you will need to rely on your friends. Your girlfriends are forever but until you meet your husband, guys will come and go. If you have been in a hot and heavy relationship, for a time you may have accidently overlooked your friends. Reconnecting with your girl friends will not only help you get over the guy but will also be good for your social life.

You will learn that your girlfriends will have experienced break ups similar to yours. Sharing their pain will help you understand that, however bad the hurt you are experiencing, others have survived and you will too.

You will quite possibly have some extra time on your hands now that you are single. You used to spend a lot of time with your ex. This extra time should be used productively to get over the guy. Go to the gym and get your body in shape. Take up a new hobby.

One of the best things you can do during this period is to join a group or a class. Not only does a class take up the time you would have spent with your ex, but it also introduces you to a new circle of friends.

That brings me to my last point, the best thing you can do is move on when you want to get over the guy. Between your old friends, the new friends you make in your class or hobby, and the activities you do to fill up your time, you will emerge as a new person.

The best way to mend your broken heart and get over a guy is moving on.

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