The Key to Making Up – Mending Your Broken Heart

Posted on August 3, 2010
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How can you make up with your ex? How do you convince them that what the two of you had together was special? This is your key to making up with them and mending your broken heart.

First of all, you have to recognize that whatever happened, you were both at fault. If they were not giving you what you needed then you may have looked for it elsewhere and cheated on them. Or you may not have been giving them what they needed so they cheated on you. Yes, the cheater is morally culpable for the cheating. The person who was cheated on should not hold the soul responsibility. But the fault lies in both party’s laps.

Most important, you both need to forgive and forget. You have to learn to let go of the anger that you have built up about the incident in order to have full forgiveness. The incident must never be mentioned again. You can never let it interfere with your relationship, the past is the past. If you cannot do this, you won’t be able to truly make up for a period of time.

If the incident was your fault, apologize and really truly mean it. It is not considerate to your partner if your apology is not meaningful and you end up doing it again. You have to be willing to change if you want your apology to mean anything. Otherwise, you don’t mean it and you won’t get them back.

Prepare yourself to pamper them a bit in order to get their fogiveness. In order to make up you need to show them you are interested in making up, but that doesn’t mean stalking them or sending them hundreds of text messages. Don’t expect them to come forgive you right away just because you’ve sent out some signals that you are sorry. You need to put your heart on the line and your ego in check.

Even though you want to be totally back together your partner may want to only be friends. You may have to settle with what you can get. Trust in a relationship will take time to rebuild. You should give them the space they need to get to know you again, if this is the case. Eventually you will be able to make up if you accept what they are willing to offer you right now.

Finally, you have to know when to give up on trying to get them back strategy and mend your broken heart. Sometimes, you just have to move on. If your partner is unable to forgive you, you are in a position where the best thing you can do is move on and enter into new relationships. Even though this will break your heart, sometimes it’s the best thing for you. Making up with them may stop you from meeting your true soul mate, who may be out there waiting for you!

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