Take Control – How to Regain Your Confidence

Posted on July 8, 2010
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Forrest Gump was right! Life is like a box of chocolates. There are always an assortment of flavors that are either sweet, chewy, or nutty – or some wild combination! It’s entirely possible that we might not like all the chocolates in the box, but we always have to deal with whatever we get nevertheless.

There are many words to describe what happens when we don’t get what we want. Some use the term “failure”, but even that word is often used in the wrong context. We instead opt for words like “setback” or “stalled.” Call them what you like, these are the terms for the road bumps in life. If life was always smooth sailing, we’d be pretty poorly equipped people. If we didn’t have all of our intense personal experiences – at the first tough point, we’d in all likelihood have to be carted off to an asylum.

Have you ever taken a good hard look at the seasoned hands of a life-long farmer? His skin is wrinkled and dark from long winters and blistering summers. His palms have thick calluses from handling ropes and equipment. These calluses develop so that later on, his hands will better prepared for the coming work.

In most instances, setbacks seem to function in the same fashion. One area where people consistently experience setbacks is weight loss. Oh, the tales some people out there could tell… When the pounds creep up, we are set to dig in our heels and work even harder. Or do we, do we really have the ability to take control?

With the proper help we can bounce back. Setbacks in life, and especially those in work, can beat us down to where we don’t even want to try anymore. It’s hard to make it alone. Having someone else along for the ride can soften the road bumps and keep us moving in a positive direction. Some setbacks require the buddy system to overcome. This buddy can be a friend, family member, or a counsellor. Their job is to be a sounding board for you. If needed, they offer sound advice to get you going again. This person is your personal counterweight to keep your life – and your career opportunities in balance, at those times when you feel you’re tipping over the edge.

Part of bouncing back from a loss or a setback is putting the situation into the proper perspective. You lost the race, ether because you didn’t practice enough or because the other racers were better. Counter that setback with more practice – even ask for tips from other racers. Look on the positive side for answers to those setbacks.

Would it feel good to give up? Of course it wouldn’t. Getting back in the saddle as soon as possible is the essential key to regaining your confidence.

Alan Gillies is the Founder of Learning 2 Live, an online Lifestyles resource which mixes business with pleasure, covering a number of Lifestyle topics which include Relationships, Health, Wellbeing, Career, Travel & Coaching. Alan has extensive hands on experience across a wide range of business disciplines including Coaching and Mentoring, Change Management and NLP.

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