How To Get My Girlfriend Back: Our Favorite Five Basic Secrets Explained

Posted on February 2, 2011
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Did you just suffer a major break up and need her back? These are the five keys to beginning the process of getting your girlfriend back quick.

After a break up it’s easy to either talk too much about it or not talk about the subject in any way. Neither of these is healthy. Write it all down or talk it out with one person (not your ex) so you can just get everything out. Then you are done and it’s time to leave it alone. Don’t dwell anymore.

Logic Will Not Save You
First, don’t reason with yourself. If you do not understand why she broke up with you right now, you almost certainly won’t. Sometimes the rationale does not make sense. Sometimes it is based solely on something she felt, which is something nobody else can ever understand. You do not have to understand it. It is what it’s so don’t spend plenty of time making an attempt to work out the solution or pondering what you may have done differently. You are wasting your time and losing her each second.

Further, Don’t Attempt to Reason With Her.
I believe a common misconception about getting girls back is that we are able to reason with them or appeal to their emotions and this just is not right. Yes, they are emotional and over-analyzing creatures, but when it comes to matters of the heart they can also be impetuous. Like I said, we cannot always understand what’s going on in somebody’s head or heart, but most likely it’s not based in logic.

Be Clear and Then Disappear
First it is important for you to understand that your break up, no matter what your current position is, is a great thing. You have got an issue you need to work out or perhaps somebody just wants to finish taking the other person for granted. Even if you do not want to get broken up, your relationship will stronger for it when she comes running back.

You have to be clear about what you need. You also have to agree with the breakup. You should do this in a short and concise hand written letter or POSSIBLY a phone call, not an email or text. You are able to say you continue to have feelings for the person, but you have to also say that breaking up is for the best. Agreeing with the split up is vital. Ensure your letter is SHORT, calm, and clear-headed. The purpose is to be totally clear and to allow them to go. If you do not allow them to go (in a mature way) how can they come back?

Avoid All Social Technology
After your one contact it’s time to disappear. Ladies love a mystery and they adore what they cannot have. Disappear. I am letting you know it will work.
Do not text and do not call her. Take her out of your telephone for the moment if you have got to. Give her space. She will appreciate that you respected her wishes and then wonder what you are up to! Do not check her facebook or twitter, it will make you want to contact her.

Focus on You
Be around other people you like. Find things worth doing that you like. And do not do any of this to better yourself to get her back. Do it for you. Girls need independent, robust men. So concentrate on being the best person you may be, for yourself. She’ll see.

Brandon knows the score. For more on what to do to get her back, check out his website and sign up for his free relationship advice newsletter.

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