Gaining Self Confidence And Succeeding

Posted on October 4, 2010
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Self-esteem is defined as “Personal feelings or opinions of oneself”. Gaining self confidence has become the third-most frequently occurring topic in psychological literature and by 2003, there were over 25,000 articles as well as books on the subject. Since that period, the number of new articles and books has increased considerably. Should you query “self-esteem books or self-esteem articles” on the search engines, you will get 2.27 million hits which reveals how obsessed most of us are becoming with this topic.

Regrettably, psychologists cannot agree on whether or not self-esteem is good for you or perhaps detrimental. In fact, they cannot even agree on precisely what self-esteem is and what role it plays in an person’s life.

What is known is that self-esteem encompasses a person’s beliefs about himself or herself. Psychologists usually consider self-esteem as an long lasting personality characteristic, although they additionally admit that short-term variations in a person’s self-esteem may be brought on by outside events which affect that particular individual.

Should you do something well, especially if you’re praised by somebody else for what you have done, your self-esteem will probably be greater than normal. Conversely, if you fail at something, your self-esteem will be lower than normal.

Self-esteem can apply to a particular characteristic or ability (for example, “I believe I am a good golfer and feel pleased with that particular ability”) or have an overall scope (as an example, “I believe that I am a good person and feel pleased with myself in general”). Here, we aren’t talking about a narcissistic belief about one’s self, but a deep-rooted knowledge that you’re genuinely a good person. This deep-rooted knowledge will be supported by your actions and deeds.

Self-help writers as well as psychologists have long considered that having good self-esteem ensured success at a person’s endeavors. However, recent studies of students have revealed that working to gain self confidence alone, instead of increasing the student’s grades actually caused them to decline. More research in this regard are ongoing to find out why this happened and whether the lack of correlation between grades and self-esteem is truthful or perhaps if the technique of increasing the subject’s self-esteem was flawed and invalidated the results.

One interesting fact has become known from all of these studies. It has been established that western societies are fixated on self-esteem and the role it plays in a person’s success, while other societies, who place little emphasis on self-esteem, appear to have as many or actually more successes.

Maybe in our over zealous pursuit of success, we have placed so much importance on gaining self confidence and self-esteem that we have developed our very own fantasy. Maybe success depends more on doing things than it does on beliefs and perceptions. What’s your opinion?

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