Four Dating Tips to Help You Gain Confidence With Girls

Posted on June 16, 2009
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So, you are here looking for some dating advice on how to be an Alpha Male, and how to have confidence with girls and dating, right? I know, there is a lot of information out there, and its hard to know who to believe and what to read. I am not going to sell you anything, or sell you on myself, use your best judgment and apply what I am telling you in this article to your life if it makes sense to you. Now, let’s get on with it and start talking about how to become an Alpha Male and create sexual tension, attraction and by-play with chics [/spin!

A girl and confidence with women and discovering how to build sexual tension in a way that will have her literally drooling over you. Taking your date from the initial meeting and being able to escalate beyond that point is critical to your success with dating and chics.

For most chics, when you begin the process of breaking through her barriers and are defining your alpha stature, she may be guarded , ill at ease or have defenses built up around her specifically designed to block guys like you out. Unless she is strongly attracted to you, you are in her defensive zone or the neutral zone if you’re lucky.

Now any skilled hockey or soccer player knows that the neutral zone will be the place where the outline of the play birthed – as players start to converge on the offensive zone and assume their positions, plans are quickly made and trashed, shots are made, and if you’re lucky, the net-minder screws up and let’s the puck or ball slip past.

The high scorers, though, like Corry Perry and Ryan Getzlaf, The great hockey players don’t sit and wait for the goalie to drop his glove – they charge in looking to see HOW to make a play. This is the same thing with chics and dating – you do not sit around waiting for a desirable girl to come up to you because dude – it won’t happen. You have to get out there and make the play happen, get around her defenses and get into her offensive zone where you can create the tension and score.

So – how DO you get out of the neutral zone and into the offensive zone? How do you learn how to be an Alpha Man? Bottom line – you have to get her excites and get her to come out from behind the net . Let me give you some important dating advice here and tell you how.

The first way that you can begin building the sexual tension is by acting detached and aloof. This shows her that, as an Alpha Male, you do not need her approval, and it will probably goad her into trying to get YOUR approval, since beautiful chics are not used to being ignored. You can do this physically and in person by ending your conversation with her and going to talk to some other friends, or by not answering her emails or calling her back as soon as she calls you. Give it a few days and make her want it! Use your new found confidence with girls to show her that you are The Alpha Man.

Method number two for building some sexual tension – disagree with her on something. Don’t agree with everything she says, man! That’s wussy behavior and not going to get you a date. Be the Alpha Male– have your own opinion and don’t be afraid to show it in a non-jackass kind of way. You don’t have to convince her you are right, just tell her YOUR opinion.

One way is using cocky-funny . Use humor to bust her balls, pick on her a little and get her riled up. Show her you are confident and not afraid of her by challenging her and throwing her off balance a bit. This is a great step in learning how to be an Alpha Man.

A fourth great way to break through her boundaries is using teasing. Teasing show her that you have confidence with girls. This is a little bit different than the cocky funny , because using teasing to show her your Alpha Male status will take a point of insecurity for her and just… niggle at it a bit. Maybe you see she is always checking her makeup or putting on lip gloss – make a comment like “What, are you wearing a toupee or something?” It’s not about belittling her, or making her feel bad about herself, but to demonstrate your own coolness and security by showing that you’re aware of your own dominance as a man, and that you do not fear her. Teasing also lowers her guard a little so that you can reach that “real” part of her personality that she is concealing with defensive behavior. (Sometimes called “tease to please” in the words of Carlos Xuma).

So – here the low down – the advantage you have here is that most men who are in the dating scene have no idea how to actually build attraction or become an alpha male. They are afraid of offending a woman, pissing her off or making her not like them. Well, in all seriousness, if you act like a wuss – she’s not going to like you anyway, so you really have nothing to lose. So my biggest piece of dating advice for you in this letter is that in order to begin learning how to become an alpha male, you need to understand this. This is all about a give and take type of game - the idea is to induce an attitude of attraction with a gentle tug-of-war with her that will get things started. So when she thinks you’re going to pull, you give her slack, which throws her off balance. And that’s when you pull her back in. It’s just like running a great offensive play – fake to the left, and when she goes left you dive in right and score the goal. Do it again and again, gently, with air of cocky comedy (again, NOT being an ass, being FUN). Do this, and you are on your way to becoming confident with women and being an alpha male.

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